As a Communication teacher, I have developed some of my own rules (or advice) about communication over the years.
Here are my 50% Conversation Rules:
1. Make at least 50% of the conversation about the other person (not you).
2. Make at least 50% of the conversation questions (not statements).
3. Make at least 50% of the conversation positive (not negative).
4. Make at least 50% of the conversation about a topic different from the other 50%.
5. Make at least 50% of the conversation time you spend listening (not talking).
These are just some simple rules that I try to follow (not always successfully, I'll admit) when I talk with people. I know. I know. Rules are made to be broken and there are valid reasons to break each of these rules--but I think they're a good place to start. What do you think?
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5 comments:
Maybe I should tattoo this post on my brain. I'm terrible at this. It's probably because I don't get much interaction with other people, being that I'm not working. I catch myself interrupting the other person in the conversation because I'm so excited to be having a conversation or so excited about the topic. Sadly, it takes me a few times before I become aware of it and stop doing it. To anyone I've done this too, I apologize, I am aware of it and as soon as I catch myself I make an effort to stop.
They are very logical and sound suggestions Patricia. Sometimes, we forget that people are not so interested in "us". What about ways in stating something negative in a positive way? Thanks. All the best.
I should memorize and practice these rules. Perhaps we all should? What do you think?
Those are very good rules. Maybe you could do a post about the "do not's" in conversations. I would love to know some of the rules not to break. By the way, I always love coming to visit your blog. You have such wonderful, informative, and interesting posts.
Take care:)
Perfect set of rules! I'd be happy if a few folks would adhere to even 50% of your 50% rules!
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